Being present while everyone around you has heads bowed is a trial, but I’m going to challenge you to do it anyway. We are staring at our phones in public now like we are standing in an elevator expectantly staring up at the lit- up floor indicators to avoid talking. Loops are being sold to us to attach to our phones to, in turn, attach to us—making our devices more of an appendage rather than a tool or accessory, no longer needing them to ring to gain attention.
Is there someone in your life who you desperately want to change? A partner, friend, coworker, boss, child, or parent? If you are constantly thinking, “Ok, if I approach them this way or say it this way, then they will react the way I want” you are in the midst of a huge energy suck and a delusion. We can’t change people that way and we will waste our precious internal resources trying.
So, how do we change others?