Being present while everyone around you has heads bowed is a trial, but I’m going to challenge you to do it anyway. We are staring at our phones in public now like we are standing in an elevator expectantly staring up at the lit- up floor indicators to avoid talking. Loops are being sold to us to attach to our phones to, in turn, attach to us—making our devices more of an appendage rather than a tool or accessory, no longer needing them to ring to gain attention.
The road to healing and growth is never a smooth upward path with every day better than the last. Usually, it is more like a jagged-line-in-a-general-upward-direction kind of a thing. But, if you are having a tough day, don't be discouraged (or surprised), you aren't losing ground on all your hard work, it is just a part of the process. So, why do we have these setbacks and how do we handle them and turn them into another opportunity for growth?
Tis the season for New Year's Resolutions! Many of us will be making them in the next day or so, but according to statistics less than 10% actually keep them. So, rather than set yourself up for regret and disappointment, I suggest an alternative to the classic resolutions that will start your year off with love and hope rather than a new set of rules.
Is there someone in your life who you desperately want to change? A partner, friend, coworker, boss, child, or parent? If you are constantly thinking, “Ok, if I approach them this way or say it this way, then they will react the way I want” you are in the midst of a huge energy suck and a delusion. We can’t change people that way and we will waste our precious internal resources trying.
So, how do we change others?
If you feel exhausted at work, it's probably more about your mind than your body. Unless you do manual labor, most of us sit on our butts all day not exerting ourselves. Even thought sitting is not great for our bodies, we aren't exhausted after binge watching Netflix. So does work make you feel so bone tired?